Work in Progress, evolve in Grace

I saw a quote on Pinterest the other night that I felt sums up the major issue of my last two relationships. The idea that a person must be perfectly and harmoniously complete before being an acceptable relationship partner. I've always felt this was bullshit. When are we not growing, changing, failing, recovering, doing, being? Even the most superficially set people are constantly striving for betterment. I have several people who I look up to, and none of them are at a place in their life where they are saying "you know what? I've fulfilled my destiny. I am a total and complete success in everything I've ever wanted to do. I no longer need to push and strive and grow because I've got it all down." 

Mainly because they aren't liars or completely obtuse about the journey that life is.

Most recently, my heart was hurt when the person I loved told me in many words that, while I was loved, I was not enough. It didn't matter that I have strength enough to do what is necessary even when it is hard. That I am resourceful, passionate, hopeful, driven. That I can be both a realist and an optimist. Extremely serious, and wonderfully playful. That I am a nurturer, I love big and deep, I am wildly open, expressive, and sensual. That I know how to commit - for life - with my whole heart. That I am more than just a good woman. That I have my partner's back, front, and sides. 

There is so much to me. And there will be so much more. I may be working on my dreams - a lot of dreams - and maybe I won't fulfill them all. But I understand that what is for me, will happen as I continue to strive. I know that in my soul. 

I hit bottom. I bounce back. Sometimes it takes longer than others, but it's true nonetheless. And who do you know is living a full life without ups and downs? I think that's impossible.

Anyway.

I believe that a person who truly loves someone will understand and adhere to the quote below. And if you can't, please, get the hell out of the way of someone who can.

Be blessed.

L.